So you are going to homeschool or distance learn...

This fall is leaving us all in a lurch. Whether it is distance learning or deciding to homeschool, there is a definite learning curve. While I do not have all of the answers, I do have some tips and tricks and some items I will recommend to make it go as smoothly as possible!

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  1. First, have a family meeting. This is a great opportunity to have a conversation about what the format is going to be and problem solve with your kids (even if they are very young) about what the ground rules are, expectations, and rewards! This helps create buy-in and make sure everyone is on the same page!

  2. Create a routine. It is helpful to have a consistent routine and rhythm to your days. There are some great ways to display this and what works for your family may take some trial and error…

Being organized also helps - set up a workspace that is clear and has minimal distractions. Here are some of my favorite tools to stay organized and inspire learning…

Be sure to check out this post on the benefits of a vertical surface!

3. Manipulatives! This is how young kids learn the best- by touching and feeling! I LOVE these magnetic letters from The Typeset Co. We make our schedule with these letters, make up stories, work on sight words… The options are endless!

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4. Use a timer! A visual timer helps kids immensely! I love these Time Timers to show time elapse. The animals are a fun visual for kids who are learning their numbers still! Sand timers are also great because they come in different increments of time.

5. Play games! There are so many fun math games you can play with just a deck of cards. Some of our other favorite games that sneak in letters and math are linked below!

6. Glue guns! One of our most used tools this summer has been a low-heat glue gun! My kids are obsessed and spend hours gluing recycled materials together to let their imagination go! This is great for infusing some STEAM learning into your days!

7. Writing notebooks. Hands-down, my favorite handwriting curriculum is Handwriting Without Tears. I’m particularly loving their new “Building Writers” notebook. The exercises are short yet use repetition to build motor memory. I also love having lined notebooks on hand to inspire free-writing, dictation, and a “yes” space for creative writing! Anything goes- no pressure- a space for kids to build positive experiences with writing.

8. Shaving Cream! And of course, as an OT, I am always seeking ways to have kiddos practice writing in tactile materials. That helps the brain create strong neural networks for motor memory and builds tactile processing and kinesthetic awareness. Shaving cream is a fun way to practice writing, math problems, spelling words, sight words.. you name it! Here are some fun trays that use different materials too…

These letter beads are super fun to practice fine motor skills AND words. Hide them in play dough or Theraputty and you have a great fine motor warm up before writing! It builds hand strength, the pincer grasp and webspace that we use for writing and is a novel way to incorporate letters into your child’s day! Speaking of play dough..

I consider play dough to be a “must-have” item for kids of all ages- not just preschool and kinder! It is great for older kids as well to practice writing math problems or spelling words- remember- the brain will build stronger neural networks this way!!

9. Writing Prompts. Another great way to get kids writing is using these fun dice to provide some writing prompts. You can also fill a jar with strips of paper that have writing prompts typed out for them to choose. Sticker Stories are also so fun- kids can place stickers on their paper and then use the stickers to prompt a story.

10. And speaking of writing- ensuring your kiddos are using the proper grip is essential. Why? When kids are able to use a mature grip on a writing instrument, it is more efficient, reduces fatigue, increases legibility, and builds their self confidence to write even more! Golf pencils are what I recommend for little developing hands preschool-2nd grade! After 2nd grade, kids should have the correct grip, hand strength, and motor memory developed to use standard pencils. Artist pencils are also very smooth and can help children with dysgraphia write more fluidly. This is a great option for kiddos who get frustrated with their writing or are very slow and laborious in their letter formation. Likewise, gel pens can be very beneficial as children get older, begin more intense note taking and begin to explore cursive writing.

I could go on and on with my favorite tools that not only facilitate learning but also make it fun. Please reach out if you have a particular challenge with your child as it relates to writing or sensory processing as you begin this adventure of learning at home. Oftentimes, the tips and tricks we have as OTs can be that missing link of the puzzle that leads to an “aha moment” for you and your child.

Do you have any favorite tools I didn’t list here? Leave a comment and let us all know!

Vacationing with Kids: Screen free activities during down time

A week at a lake with my kids made for a lot of downtime. Sure we explored, played at the lake, collect ed sticks, roasted marshmallows, read… but there are still a lot of hours in the day. Here are some activities and games you can bring on vacation. Not only are they fun, but these activities build skills, address sensory processing, and most importantly, allow you to relax on vacation…

Make pinecone bird feeders!

You can pack a small amount of bird seed and search for a pinecone while on a scavenger hunt hike! Bring some nut butter on your vacation and spread some on with a knife or popsicle stick. Next, roll the pinecone in the bird seed. Hang with some twine onto a sturdy branch or onto your porch! Watching the birds come feast will add some excitement to your days!

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Watercolors!

I am SO happy that I brought watercolors and a pad of paper. It created such calm, centering moments after a long day out in the sunshine. You can create these beautiful huge flowers with a found stick. Bring along a roll of tape too- not only can you secure the flowers this way, but I was amazed to see how creative my kids got with a roll of tape- making games, hanging up signs for the fort they made, and making jumping games when it got too cold outside!

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Clay!

I brought a hunk of air dry clay with us and the kids could spend at least an hour creating! You can add imprints of leaves, acorns, pine cones. Inspired by a nest of Chickadees, we created the cutest bird nests with mama birds! Bringing clay would be a bit heavy to carry so it is best for road trips to your destination.

 
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Scavenger Hunt!

Here are some great scavenger hunt guides. You could also easily make your own with a brown bag with handles and draw some quick pictures of items to find! Or, if you are super-crafty, you can make this a sewing project and easily fashion yourself a scavenger hunt bag with some fabric and yarn or a paper bag- great tutorial here!

Dig and Dig and Dig…

My kiddos spent so much time digging and making pools at the lake and dams… the list goes on and on. We had some kitchen tools like a tea bag strainer, collander, mixing bowls, and big ladles. This is also a very cool way to encourage them to dig! Heavy work can be so calming too and a great way to build language skills for little ones!

Journal

With my almost 5 and 7 year old kiddos, we brought some journals to create a travel diary. Draw a picture, dictate a favorite memory, share a highlight. The idea was to inspire some open-ended writing and create a way to document our trip. This Polarloid camera is also so fun for kids to do their own photo journal.

Card Games

We brought along a deck of cards along with some of these other favorites! These games are so great for counting, math, following steps, impulse control, and building executive functioning skills!

Active Games

I also brought along this amazing soft frisbee, a sling-shot (just for pine cones), a small ball and jump rope and they were a hit!

Books!

Here are some lovely books to read before and during your trip!

This is a lovely book about the beach- one of my favorites from childhood!

I love this book during this time of year when we often see relatives- it helps children process the feelings that often surround seeing family and then the inevitable farewell…

Tell me, what are your travel go-tos for kids during vacation down time?

Cooking with Kids

Summertime is a great opportunity to make some fun treats with kids. Cooking with kids can be a little frustrating if you are expecting it to be without a mess. Having a bit more time on your hands this summer to allow for the spilled flour and to make it a cooking experience rather than one more thing on your to-do list will help keep it fun for your kiddo AND you!

Here are some tips I have for cooking with kids…

  • Get out all of your ingredients

  • pre-portion some of them, especially if your kiddo is under 4- so they are mostly dumping ingredients in and stirring (leave the learning about 1/2 cups and full cups etc.. for when they are older

  • prep some ingredients ahead of time- for example, if your kiddo is chopping something like a carrot- you may want to peel it first if you don’t want them using a vegetable peeler

  • have lots of clean-up rags on-hand for wiping up spills on-the-spot

Here are some fun recipes to make with your kiddos this summer:

Strawberry Popsicles!

Blend up 1 cup of strawberries with a little milk, yogurt or water and some honey- you can determine the sweetness

Pour into popsicle molds leaving some room at the top if you’d like to add a second layer!

Pop in the freezer for about 15 minutes until beginning to set

For the second layer, blend 1/2 cup of coconut cream with 1-2 tablespoons of honey

Remove the popsicles from the freezer and add the coconut layer. Place popsicle sticks into the popsicles if you are making them in Dixie cups. Replace in the freezer and freeze until solid!

Popsicles can also be great for teething kiddos- particularly the ones without the

stick in the middle.

Here are some popsicle molds that I like to use…

Another thing I love to make with kids are Energy Balls. You have probably seen some version of these before- they are packed with protein and give a big dose of healthy foods if you throw in some chia seeds and flax meal. The recipe is very forgiving so you can get creative and if you notice it is too sticky, add more oats. Too dry, add more nut butter or sweetener. My measurements are approximations because I typically throw things in.

Chocolate Chip Energy Balls

1 cup nut butter of your choice

1 cup rolled oats

1/4 cup flax meal

2 tablespoons chia seeds

2 teaspoons ground cinnamon

1/4 cup dairy free mini chocolate chips

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1/2 cup honey (or you could do 1/4 cup maple syrup, 1/4 cup honey)

Mix everything together then pop in the fridge to harden a bit. After about 30 minutes roll into balls and store in fridge or freezer. You can also add in unsweetened shredded coconut or roll the balls in the coconut at the end!

These are the oats and chocolate chips I prefer using…

Mason Jar Ice Cream

This is a super-easy recipe and fun to make this summer with kids. You can be creative and add in chopped oreo cookies, berries, or even a little jam if you don’t have fresh berries on hand.

1 cup heavy whipping cream

2 tablespoons granulated sugar

1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla

Place all ingredients in a 16 ounce mason jar. Shake until mixture thickens then place in the freezer for 3 hours for the perfect soft serve ice cream!

 
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Cooking with kids is a great way to work on fine motor skills, experience new and different textures, learn about numbers and quantity, follow steps, build reading skills, and even build hand and shoulder strength stirring! Here are some of my favorite kitchen tools for kids…

Have fun with these recipes! What are some of your favorite things to cook with kids? Have any recipes to share?

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Sunday Snippets

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What is giving you life these days? We are making sure to get lots of fresh air everyday, even in the rain. One of my favorite activities side walk chalk on wet pavement!

We are attempting this ice cream recipe- what a fun way for kids to make a sweet treat!

My first grader is losing motivation for distance learning. Here are some fun activities we are turning to for engaging, movement-based activities!

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Throw balled up socks at sight words written on foil, then crumple the foil into balls for a bilateral activity and make another game with those foil balls!

Make squares with sidewalk chalk for each letter of a word to practice writing and spelling.

Make it big- use a big piece of paper with familiar names, sight words, letters, what have you for your child to circle or match with corresponding cards!

I am loving this instagram account…

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This compliments my blog post so well- did you read it?

I am loving this with my kids and I send pages to my telehealth clients!

Have a fantastic week!

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Tip Round-up

Here is a round-up of the last 2 weeks of tips I’ve posted! You will find some movement activities, recipes, writing tips, tactile sensory play ideas, and some Mother’s Day inspiration to help find balance during

these days.

Progression of Writing Skills

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This developmental progression of writing, beginning with these shapes, is critical to success with writing. More recently, kids have been expected to be able to write the letters of the alphabet far earlier than they are actually ready. Without these prerequisite skills, children are more susceptible to developing poor writing habits and frustration.

Here are some additional prerequisite motor skills that are critical to developing functional habits for writing…

Maintain a prone position on elbows

Maintain a prone position on elbows

Use a pincer grasp to lace small items like beads, cheerios

Use a pincer grasp to lace small items like beads, cheerios

Manipulate playdough, roll between hands and flatten!

Manipulate playdough, roll between hands and flatten!

Use an emerging tripod grasp- small crayons and chalk are great!

Use an emerging tripod grasp- small crayons and chalk are great!

Use a variety of tools with a mature grasp with three fingers

Use a variety of tools with a mature grasp with three fingers

Snip with scissors

Snip with scissors

Use hands flat on the floor on all 4s or to propel forward!

Use hands flat on the floor on all 4s or to propel forward!

Squeeze a pipette or baster with good hand strength!

Squeeze a pipette or baster with good hand strength!

Handwriting Without Tears is my absolute favorite curriculum to learn developmentally appropriate writing skills!

Let me know what questions you have!!!

Mothers and the Interplay of Doing, Being, and Becoming

May is Global Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month. And while the mental health of mothers is always important, the mental health of mothers who often serve in the role as primary caregiver for their families is critical during this global pandemic.

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The New York Times recently published an article featuring a survey they conducted about homeschooling. The article states that the majority of men surveyed think they are doing more of the homeschooling, but only 3% of women agreed. This highlights the disparity mothers often feel when it comes to their workload. Add onto that the documented mental load of motherhood and where does this leave mothers’ mental health?

As an occupational therapist and mother, I have been fascinated by the occupational disruption that is occurring in our daily lives during the pandemic. OTs use the term “occupation” to encompass engaging in anything that brings you purpose in daily life. Engaging in meaningful occupations on a daily basis has become a difficult endeavor during this time; yet, it is in doing just that, “engaging in meaningful occupations, ” that gives us a sense of purpose, mastering and belonging.

Now, with our lives turned upside down by sheltering in place, finding time for those “occupations” that bring fulfillment is harder to come by.  As mothers, many of us are suddenly teaching and overseeing our children's education, while managing a household, working from home and for some, caring for other family members or aging parents. This primary caregiving role plus new and added responsibilities inevitably puts added stress on mothers.

So how can mothers continue to find meaning and fulfillment during this time of social distancing with its added responsibility and stressors?

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First, focus on the “doing.”

The act of “doing” provides us with some diversion during times of hardship.  Make a list of ways you enjoy spending your time. Think back to what you enjoyed during different phases of life. Then, on your schedule, write down a small chunk of time to do these activities.

We are seeing so many innovative and creative ways to make the “doing” happen. If being with others is critical to your sense of connection, we have seen social distance happy hours with neighbors, a Zoom call with your mom’s group or online painting classes, all helping to support a sense of belonging that is so imperative to mental health. While technology makes all of this more accessible, I also believe it is the forced time away from the hustle of daily life we have become accustomed to that now affords us opportunities to connect in new ways. Even writing letters to friends contributes to our sense of belonging and taking the time to do this can bring such joy and connection.

As a child I enjoyed painting. While I no longer have time for oil painting as I once did, I am working more kid-friendly methods of art and painting into the activities I do with my children during this time at home. Whether they eagerly want to participate or not, they see me enjoying an occupation that brings me happiness. We can be together engaging in meaningful occupations to each of us, even if at the time they would prefer to play and run around outside while I play with their paints. Be innovative with materials and the location of engaging in these meaningful occupations to keep things interesting. Take it outside, involve the children, do yoga on the grass while the kids play. It is these small changes that gives us a greater sense of mastery and control over our situation.

Despite the challenges, make it a habit.

We know the importance of creating and maintaining routines and habits. This is obviously hard to do when you now add on homeschooling to your routine or having no break from your children during the day. I hear it from fellow mothers: “How can I fit in a walk when I’m with my kids all day and they refuse to walk? My kids want my attention the second I get on the phone, how can I call a friend? Baking with kids is a disaster and more work!”  We have to adjust our expectations and know that the act of “doing” may mean a walk that is not as long as you would like, or painting in solitude now means your kids may come in and dump your cup of water, or catching up with a friend uninterrupted is impossible - but try to anyway. If you love to bake, include your kids, even if it means one more mess to clean up. Focus on the process and fun, not the perfect end result.  Knowing and accepting that the personal occupations that bring us joy are going to feel a little different than they used to right now are key to keeping the habits going.

And when frustrations arise, co-regulate with your loved ones.

The best way to get through the difficult moments is to co-regulate. We are going to feel triggered by those around us. Our kids are going to scream when they do not get to watch movies all day and need to do some school work. Our spouse may innocently ask what’s for dinner or comment on the cleanliness of the house. We can meet these moments with frustration or, better yet, with co-regulation to modulate our nervous system and influence those around us. Model taking a deep breath, begin with empathy to connect before correcting.

Use mindfulness to experience “being.”

In the act of co-regulation, we experience mindfulness. We might sit with discomfort of the unknown during Covid-19, acknowledge the grief we might be feeling with the loss of our “normal” routine, the grief that our visits with loved ones are over FaceTime rather than in-person, and the grief that our children might be experiencing with the loss of their routine. When we can accept these uncertainties as temporary and accept that everything we are doing is good enough just as it is, then we can experience “being.”

Then, reflect on the experience of “becoming.”

From an occupational therapy perspective, we can focus on the experience of “becoming;” the transformation and sense of mastery we cultivate by engaging in meaningful roles and occupations, which helps bring to the forefront a sense of one’s future self. As mothers, we are constantly doing this without much thought, but with some reflection, we can enter into a more conscious state of “becoming” and feeling of fulfillment vs. failure.

Some of the occupational therapy literature has used these concepts to address perinatal loss and using “occupation” during stressful times. These concepts are rooted in history and prove that by adding in some purposeful mindfulness and strategies, we can use meaningful occupations throughout to propel us forward during the most difficult of days and seasons.

There will be hard moments, we will be frustrated, but it’s vitally important to our mental health as mothers to know that we can move through it with a little extra mindfulness and effort. We are not alone in this journey. If you’re feeling discouraged, reach out to a friend or trusted person to help you regulate your emotions. By focusing on “becoming” and “doing,” we can not just survive, but thrive during this challenging time.

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References

Fidler GS, & Fidler JW. (1978). Doing and becoming: Purposeful action and self-actualization. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 32(5), 305–310. 

Forhan, M. (2010). Doing, being, and becoming: A family’s journey through perinatal loss. American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 64, 142–151.

Hammell KW. (2004). Dimensions of meaning in the occupations of daily life. Canadian Journal of Occupational Therapy, 71(5), 296–305.

Henare D. (2003). “It just isn't me anymore” moving forward to a new identity. New Zealand Journal of Occupational Therapy, 50(1), 4–10.

McColl, M. (2002). Occupation in Stressful Times. American Journal of Occupational Therap, 56, 350-353.

Rebeiro KL. (2001). Enabling occupation: The importance of an affirming environment. Canadian Journal of Occupational Therapy, 68(2), 80–89.

Wilcock, A. (1999). Reflections on Doing, Being, and Becoming. Australian Occupational Therapy Journal, 46, 1-11.

Tip Round-up

Each week I am providing some themes and tips throughout the week!

Movement Mondays- a way to get moving and start your week

Tasty Tuesdays- a fun recipe or eating tip for you and your kids

Writing Wednesdays- Featuring a writing tip or idea

Tactile Thursdays- Tips for engaging in tactile play

The Friday Feed with a new blog post!

Here it is in case you missed this week’s tips beginning with Friday’s post…

Click on the picture to see the link!

Have a great week ahead!!!

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Co-Regulation

One of the most talked about things in the OT world is “self regulation.” We can provide self regulation strategies, tips, tricks, materials and books. What I have learned most recently, with my own 2 children, is the importance of co-regulation. It is impossible to help a child self regulate if we are not co-regulating with them. So what does this mean?

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Co-regulation is an interactive process of providing regulatory support within relationships. It encompasses providing empathy during stress, a stable and safe environment with structured routines and logical consequences, modeling self-regulation skills and providing scaffolding to teach the skills.

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One of the hardest things can be putting this into practice- modeling it when stress levels are high, patience is waning, and everyone is a bit sleep deprived. Here are some strategies that we can put into practice to help self-regulate in order to co-regulate with our children.

We all know the buzz around mindfulness. Recognizing the feeling, naming it and letting it roll through you without reacting to it. When I get so frustrated with something my kids are doing or not doing and I feel that urge to react coming on, I try very hard to name the emotion to myself, recognize it and pause to sit with it. Just that pause reminds me that their behavior is communication. I can communicate back with my own frustration and fan the flame into a full blown blaze or I can attempt to co-regulate with them.
I know this is hard. Recently, Brené Brown spoke to this in her podcast, Unlocking Us.

Anxiety is contagious but so is calm.

This is co-regulation. We can provide that safe space with logical consequences to negative behavior while still staying calm, and self-regulating. This Covid-19 situation adds an extra spin to co-regulation because space away from our loved ones (partners included) is hard to come by. I can’t tell you how many times my 6 year old has responded to my “please take a deep breath” with, “you need to take a deep breath too Mommy.”

Yep. That’s right. We need to model how to self-regulate.

That modeling might look like taking space. Not walking away in the midst of a meltdown. But depending on the meltdown- If it’s a tantrum about not getting dessert because they ate none of their dinner taking space might look like naming the feeling- “you really want dessert. I do too. I love dessert. Screaming about it is not how to get dessert. I need to take a deep breath outside. Would you like to take a deep breath outside with me or wait for me to come back in to have a hug?” Sometimes flipping the mood with fresh air can work like a charm for both child and parent. When your toddler follows you outside screaming the gut reaction might be to feel frustrated with them. You couldn’t get your space. Modeling a deep breath and opening your arms in a hug will provide that co-regulation. And you just modeled to them that a way to self-regulate is to take some space away from the situation. This whole scenario can be revisited with them at bedtime during a calm, quiet moment and explain the limits.

From an OT perspective, we can co-regulate effectively when our sensory preferences and needs are being met. Again, during this Covid situation, our sensory needs like exercise, time with friends, a walk alone, and silence might feel like a thing of the past. This goes for our children too. They are accustomed to connecting with friends, playing sports, running on a big field at school. Structure the day to meet these sensory needs- grab some endorphins with physical activity, quiet time to have silence, talking to an adult friend or asking a parent of your child’s friend to send a video you can play when the time is right. The bottom line is that we cannot effectively self-regulate and co-regulate when our sensory needs are neglected.

Let’s get back to breathing for a second though.

The best way to get some sensory input and change our nervous system is by taking a deep breath. It slows our heart rate. Brings us out of the “basement” of our brain and into the front where we control our executive functions. We can effectively co-regulate and provide a safe space for our child to sit with their big feelings while we sit with theirs, as well as our own big feelings.

The great news about co-regulation if you feel like this has been harder than ever these days, there is always an opportunity to build this practice. Kids live in the present. We can take a cue from them and sit with the discomfort of heavy feelings then move through it and find calm.

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References

Rosanbalm, K.D., & Murray, D.W. (2017). Caregiver Co-regulation Across Development: A Practice Brief. OPRE Brief #2017-80. Washington, DC: Office of Planning, Research, and Evaluation, Administration for Children and Families, US. Department of Health and Human Services. https://fpg.unc.edu/sites/fpg.unc.edu/files/resources/reports-and-policy-briefs/Co-RegulationFromBirthThroughYoungAdulthood.pdf

Sunday Snippets

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Be on the look out for sidewalk chalk obstacle courses! I will be leaving them around town in Los Gatos! Tag me if you see one and play! #otoutsideobstaclecourse or perhaps make some in your neighborhood for all of the kiddos!

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We found some very cool treasures on an adventure to a nearby creek and will be making these!

 
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This is our favorite air dry clay- and the options are endless for how to create from pinch pots, beads, animals, hearts, birds in a nest… The white is fun because you can paint it but this colored set of air dry clay is so vibrant!

I like this way of scheduling out the day for kids during this pandemic- post-it notes have been very useful for us!

Did you know that I have an Amazon storefront? I spent some time organizing it and adding lists and items- be sure to check it out for some great materials to help you as you raise, teach and engage with your kiddos!

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These are delicious and a great way to get kids helping in the kitchen and excited about food!

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